Career Management – How to Deal With Failure-The Need to be Resilient

Being topical this time, the England football team has come to terms with failure, and all those pictures of footballers and fans in tears is a powerful picture of how we can get hurt and disappointed. It would be rare for anyone not to feel similar, but what we need to do is to think about how we will react.

There are many ways to deal with disappointment and many times I have spoken with people who did not get a promotion and their way of dealing with it was to disengage from the company, to moan and do the minimum. Sometimes this would coincide with a new boss taking over their team, into the job they had hoped to get. What sort of impression does this give to their boss – someone who is not interested and helpful in the job and who makes negative remarks? Their chance of another promotion reduces the longer they maintain this approach.

I appreciate it is hard but they need to turn the situation around. Companies will sometimes ask me to work with someone who is not being effective at work, but the company wants to help them return to how they used to be. With listening and understanding most of the people I have worked with have been able to turn the situation around, and in large companies this can be through a sideways move for a new challenge. However one or two let their feelings fester and they can find that they lose their job, not usually a good position to be in. When I worked with Martin it was a wake up call and we were careful to plan his strategy for the next organization he was to join.

I personally remember years ago that a boss did not give me a bonus. I was so disappointed; I always had one and it was usually enough to pay for the family holiday. I spoke to my boss, found out the reasons, and it was hard not to be defensive when I found them unfair. I learned that I could not expect my boss to have my best interests to heart and made sure I had regular update meetings with her seeking feedback on how she thought I was doing so I could address things straight away. I also got myself a transfer and like a fairy tale was promoted within a year. …

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One Careful Owner – The Science of Selling Cars

When it comes to upgrading or offloading your car, there are several routes you can take. One of the most popular methods is to upgrade your car through a part exchange. This means that you give a car dealer your old car in exchange for a reduction in price on your new one. This is a quick and easy way of upgrading your vehicle, though you will not get as much as you would if you were to sell it though other means.

The other limitation of this method is that it only works if you want to buy another car from the dealer. There may not be another car that you want, or that's in your price range; maybe you have decided to go car-free or you're moving abroad and no longer need a car?

If, for whatever reason, part exchange is not feasible, many people try and sell their car onto their friends or work mates. This can be good for a quick sale, and it also costs little or nothing to advertise – just a quick email or a few phone calls. However, selling to people you know does not always have a happy ending. The problems can come when something goes wrong with the car. The buyer may feel that you are still responsible for it in some way, and may expect a refund or some sort of compensation. This can lead to a very awkward situation and friendships have been outlined over less, so the best advice, if you're going to take this route, is to make out a clear agreement in writing that you both sign relating any warranty period, refunds and repair costs. This way, you both know exactly what the agreement is at the time of the sale, so there a much less chance of any misunderstandings later on.

If no-one you know is interested in buying your car, or you'd rather avoid any potential awkwardness, then classifieds are an ideal place to advertise cars for sale . Local papers, and publications such as Auto Trader have always been popular places to buy and sell vehicles and nowdays online classifieds are also very popular place to advertise.

The advantage of using the web to sell a car is that information can be uploaded instantly, and it is also much easier for buyers to search for vehicle via price, make, or model. The added bonus is that anyone with internet access can view such ads so an online advert tends to reach a wider audience. By selling privately, you're also likely to be able to get a higher price than through part exchange, or selling to a used car dealer.

But, whichever route you take to sell you car, be sure to hold out for the best possible deal; but at the same time, be realistic about what your car is worth. …

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The Science of Erections

An erection occurs when the penis fills with blood and gets hard. The penis has 2 main chambers that run along side the top of the penis shaft. This area, the corpora cavernosa, is made up of spongy tissue, veins, arteries, spaces, and smooth muscles that hold in-flowing blood.

Erections happen when more blood flows into the penis and less blood flows out. The erection process is perfectly normal and can happen at any time throughout the day.

Most healthy males get erections during REM (rapid eye movement) sleep (the time of sleep when dreams happen). Also, erections when waking up are a sign of good penis health.

Usually, erections happen during physical arousal or fantasizing, but other things can cause it to occur. Such causes include pressure on the genital area and pressure from the urinary bladder from the need to urinate.

For an erection to happen, some kind of stimulation makes the brain and penile nerves to get excited. They tell the smooth muscles of the corpora cavernosa to let blood in, and stop blood from flowing out. This has the effect of expanding the penis size.

As the penis gets bigger in length and girth, it is normal for it to rise at an angle. This angle is usually anywhere from parallel to the floor to pointing almost straight upward.

Sometimes men are stressed out and can not get an erection. This is just the body's way of dealing with stress (or the "fight-or-flight" response). Worrying about a small penis size or having an unattractive partner can make it impossible for a man to keep anection.

Other things that affect erections are: the amount of sleep a guy gets, how active he is, and in general, age causes changes in hormone levels, like testosterone.

Erection problems

If a man can not keep anection for 25% of the time, he may have erectile dysfunction, or ED. Treatments for erectile dysfunction can include penile injections, vacuum pumps, surgery, prosthetic devices, Viagra, hormone therapy, counseling, and natural penis exercises.

Some of these methods try to physically help a guy get an erection, while others improve his sex drive so he can perform better.

Methods like injections, prosthetic devices, and vacuum pumps do not require arousal, as they are based on an automatic response.

Other methods like pills and the natural exercises improve the blood flow into the penis, and make erections possible upon sexual arousal. Some pills work each time you take them, while others work for more long lasting benefits.

Regular erections are a natural part of good male sexual health. The ability to get erections decrees with age, but there are things men can do to improve themselves.

Erection problems can be ever cured with modern methods like surgery, counseling, pills, and even exercises. …

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The Science Behind Brain Wave Patterns

The human brain is made up of very many cells that are called neurons. These cells use electricity for purposes of communication among themselves. Because, they number billions, the combined effect of these neurons is sending signals at the same time produces very high amounts of electrical activities in the human brain.

This can only be detected using sensitive medical equipments, which measure the brain wave patterns over some certain areas of the scalp. 'Brain wave patterns' is a term that is most commonly used to refer to brain's electrical activities because of its wave-like and cyclic nature.

To get the concept of brain-wave patterns clearly, it is important to understand the nature of frequencies that these wave patterns produce and the mental sate that is associated with them. After the brainwaves were discovered, scientists later discovered that the brain's electrical activities could change depending on the activities that a person is undertaking.

For example, the brainwaves when a person is sleeping are quite different to those of a person who is fully awake. Over the past several years, highly sensitive equipments have made it almost possible to figure out which brainwaves are exactly present and what they signify on the person's state of mind and health.

The different brain wave patterns are associated with certain mental states.


These brain wave patterns have frequency of between 12 Hz and 38Hz. They are associated with them mental state of being broadly awake. This reflects to the mental state in which most of the people are in especially during the daytime when engaged in activities such as walking. Although the mental state of being broadly awake is in most cases uneventful, it is quite important.

It is important to note that in real life, most people lack the beta activity which may cause emotional or mental disorders such as insomnia or depression. The stimulation of beta activity may cause an improvement in concentration, attentiveness, energy levels and emotional stability.


These brain wave patterns have frequencies of between 8 and 12 Hz. The associated mental state is that of being relaxed and awake but not processing a lot of information. You are in the alpha sate state just before you sleep and immediately after waking up in the morning.

On closing your eyes, the brain begins producing more alpha waves automatically. Alpha is generally the goal of the meditators that are experienced. Because alpha is a seriously receptive and highly absorbent mental state, it can also be used for mental re-programming and effective self-hypnosis.


These brain wave patterns have frequency of between 3 Hz and 8Hz. It is associated with extreme relaxation and light sleep. It can be used self-programming and hypnosis by use of suggestions that are pre-recorded.


These brain wave patterns are the slowest, and they have frequency of between 0.2 and 3 Hz. They associated with deep and dreamless sleep. People Delta brain wave patterns have a body that is capable of healing itself and at …

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Presentation Crisis – How a Quote, Cartoon and Story Could Save Your Career

The Six Blind Men and the Elephant saved my job.

Props provide a powerful way of enhancing presentations. Verbal arguments are not enough to convince people of your message. Try using visuals such as charts or cartons, or physical props such as products or tools. Verbal props come in several forms: quotations from famous people, anecdotes, plays, poems or even questions.

The following is a true report of how I used my new-found communication skills and a combination of props to get me out of hot water with my company's auditors.

The auditors had submitted a report suggesting that I, as the chief supply manager, had exceeded my procurement approval authority. I strongly disagreed and tried explaining to them the difference between our use of approval authority and implementation authority within the computer system. They did not buy my explanation – that is, until I had a chance to meet with them.

The meeting seemed to take forever. Tension clouded the room, because the auditors intended to remain firm on their "observation" and everyone knew my position.

Finally, it was my turn. I started: "I offer the quote from George Bernard Shaw who said, 'In the right key you can say anything, in the wrong key, nothing.' So to help set the right key I ask you to look at this cartoon and parable that I am passing out. "

There were some eyebrows at this point, but no one expected to my strange approach – yet.

After everyone had a copy of the handout I continued:

"This cartoon shows the parable of the six blind men and the elephant. The six blind men went to see the elephant, but being blind and had to examine the elephant with their hands. For example, the first clutched the swaying trunk and said, 'The elephant must be a snake.' The next grabbed the tail and noted, 'The elephant is really like a rope.' Another fell against the side and exclaimed, 'Oh my, this elephant is like a wall.' Hugging the leg the next argued, 'The elephant is like a tree.' The fifth, while holding the tusk, stated, 'You are all wrong, I know it is like a spear.' And finally, the sixth felt the flapping ear and noted, 'This elephant is certainly like a fan.' "

The nervous laughter dissipated the tension and now the people were more relaxed. Then I explained how the computer system we were using was very big and complicated, like an elephant, and that we had poor documentation. Therefore, it was unreasonable for any visitor to fully understand the workings in a two-week period (this was the duration of the auditors' visit). The heads nodded in agreement at this point. Then I showed a flowchart of our approval process – emphasizing that the "approval" they were focusing on was only "an approval to print".

The bottom line is they understood my point, and the audit report was changed. It is important to know that the facts were …

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Burglar Security in College Dorms, on Vacation Or Rented Property – Portable Home Wireless Security

We all know, and the statistics back it up, that burglars do not care about whether you own or rent a property or whether you're on vacation. All burglars want is an easy mark and as much of your most portable, valuable property as they can get away with.

Unfortunately most landlords and campuses do not allow you to install your own security system because such systems normally require alterations to the property and at the very least, drilling holes.

This can mean that you are left without the protection that such a system could afford you and feeling vulnerable to attack.

Luckily there are home wireless security systems that can be installed quickly and easily and require absolutely no wiring whatever. Some of them are professional grade and have motion sensors that cover an impressive square footage. Once installed and activated the sensor monitors a certain area that you choose. If someone, such as an intruder, strains into the monitored area, a siren will be set off.

Some systems also include components like a door clip, which consist of two parts. One part is attached to the door and the other to the door frame. Once the device is initiated, an alarm will be set off when the door is opened.

Also, such alarm systems can be connected to the telephone line and automatically call a pre-determined number of your choosing when the alarm is triggered, just like with a standard home alarm system.

This is a huge benefit for tenants and students because they can simply take this home wireless security system from apartment to apartment as they move. These systems are so portable that some people even took them on vacation with them.

Alarms like these are ideal when you are in accommodation that you do not own. They satisfy basic security requirements and act as a deterrent to burglars – remember that most burglars just want an easy mark.

Many people find them extremely useful because they are portable, easy to use and generally a lot cheaper than other systems.

Always remember though that good security is the combination of technology with solid procedures and common sense. Portable home wireless security systems are not a replacement for having and using adequate locks on doors and windows, but they can add an extra layer of burglar security to provide a deterrent and provide peace of mind. …

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How To Enjoy Your Health Care And Social Career

Many professionals in the Health care and social work field have become stressed and disillusioned in their work, even though they enjoy helping people.

They are normally also not very well rewarded either financially or in terms of recognition, this allied to the type of work and situations encountered, means that the people involved in this type of industry need the same level of concern help and support that is given to the people in their care, this rarely is the case, and those working in the field end up leaving due to stress, depression and burnout.

It is very easy for those who work in the Health care field to take on the worries and pressures of the people they are trying to help this happens through resonance (the law of attraction). There are ways to prevent this from happening which everyone can apply.

Everything is comprised of energy and vibrations the higher the energy the more

Positive and happy we are, the lower the energy the more negative and lethargic we are. The people we are with, the way we think and our activities affect our energy levels.

We will be able to take on the energy that lifts us up and deflect the low energy that brings us down. The two extremes of this energy are Love and Fear. Pure Un-conditional Love is the highest energy there is and therefore has access to the multi-dimensional universe we operate in, that means whatever we know it or believe it or not we affect everything around us on a local and non-local level.

The more aware we are of how these works in our lives and in the universe the more happy and productive we will be, It will also enable us to achieve goals more effectively with awareness and application.

Judging people by our own standards and worried about peoples lives and futures over which we have limited control, also brings further low energy, so understanding the energy field we can choose to be affected by our environment or effect our environment. The situation we are in determines the most appropriate action.

I spent a month in a mental health hospital as a patient not a visitor and saw this at first hand, the only way that a lot of professionals can see to get out of this cycle is by caring less and just doing there job, this affects those around them as well and the patients who pick up on this. There is a saying love horts, if you could create a love of your job that didnt hurt you it would go so much better, and you would be creating more than you could ever know.

If you are interested in finding out more or want to apply these principles and more to your life let me know. …

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Understanding the Science Behind Horoscopes

Most Indians have, at some point of time in their lives or the other, had an encounter with horoscopes or birth charts. Something so central to a typical Indian’s decision of marriage or business or similar important life events deserves to be understood more deeply. The ideal point to start will be the construction of the birth chart.

The chart begins with a system of 12 houses whose positioning on paper may be as per the equal house system (the cusp between two houses falls at the same angle of 12 degrees for each successive house) or as per alternative systems that take into consideration the intersection between different planetary positions and assign angles accordingly.The division of houses (in the form of a circle of animals) is carried out in the zodiac space. This circle of animals is a belt in space projected on the celestial/heavenly spherical space through which planets move when viewed from the astrologer’s viewpoint. This symbolic geometric construction is divided into 12 equal parts (of 30 degrees each) and are assigned signs and names that may be usable and understandable to the common masses. We know these divisions as the various sun signs namely, Aries, Taurus, Gemini, Cancer, Leo, Virgo, Libra, Scorpio, Sagittarius, Capricorn, Aquarius and Pisces. The extensive usage of the same may be very easily seen in any newspaper/magazine or morning news on astrology.

This coupled with the latitude of the event (generally birth of the native) gives an astrologer enough numbers to crunch and make a pictorial representation of all influential heavenly circumstances on paper for the native. Next comes the placement of the planets and aspects on this chart. Heavenly bodies like the sun, planets, etc. are placed at their celestial longitudes and then the aspects, I.e. the angles at which the heavenly bodies rest at is decided. There are various systems that decide the angular aspects, for example the sextile system that sets the number at 60 degrees, the trine system that fixes it at 120 degrees and so on. Then comes the most critical part of the horoscope, I.e. the ascendant. The ascendant is an ecliptic point that rises at sunrise on the eastern horizon and changes in accordance with the earth’s rotation along its own axis. The ascendant is an expression of how we view life and who we are as people.

The ascendant is also one of the four primary angles in the horoscope. The four primary angles are in conjunction with the four principal directions, I.e. North, South, East and West. The same may be listed as follows:

1. East Angle- Ascendant

2. West Angle- Descendant

3. North Angle- Imun Coeli

4. South Angle- Midheaven

The Descendant is the point in the west diametrically opposite to the Ascendant. A similar geometrical relationship exists between the Imun Coeli and Midheaven.

Clearly, coming up with a horoscope is no mean business. Formulating a proper birth chart is a mathematically and geometrically rigorous task, whose intricacies an untrained person may …

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Education Board Games – Fun and Learning for Your Kids

Now days so many kids are playing games on the computer, and others are entranced by television, and you may be wondering as a parent if board games are still a good option for kids. Yes, they definitely are, and playing educational board games with your kids is a great idea. In today's world, many families are growing further and further apart; everyone doing their own thing. Board games can help to bring your family all together again for some fun, and not only that, but they are also very educational as well. If you are ready to get your family interacting with each other, then board games are a great idea.

You can use board games to teach your kids a variety of things in life. One example is the game called Settlers of Canaan, which is a Bible based board game. This type of a game is great for teaching your kids more about the Bible and helping them to see that the Bible is more than just a book they hear about in church. Also, for younger children you can use board games to teach them language skills or simple math skills as well.

Another game that you may have never considered, is the game of Chess. This can be a great game to play with your kids. Your kids will learn about how to come up with strategies and it also will teach them how to think logically and creatively as well. If you child seems curious about the game, then why not go ahead and teach them how to play and have some fun.

Believe it or not, computer games can be educational for your children as well, as long as the parents are involved. Be sure that you do not just give your child an educational computer game and then send them on their way, which is easy to do. Often you will find that using board games instead of computer games is a much better way to provide your kids with educational fun while interacting together as well. When you play board games together as a family, isolation will no longer be the problem it used to be, and no doubt you will all have a great time.

While you may think that board games are outdated and boring, they have actually come quite a ways in the past few years. There are many great board games out there that are fun and educational as well. These games help to make learning fun, and will provide entertainment for the entire family as well. If you pick the right board games, you can actually teach your kids various fundamentals like math, language, and even values ​​without them knowing it.

Making memories together is important, and one way that you can do this is to start playing board games together as a family. No doubt they will memories that you all will cherish in the future. …

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