So, Bill Clinton will be fast and furious on the campaign trail supporting Hillary's bid for the Presidency. Good news or bad news? In 2004, Howard Dean's spouse, Judith Steinberg Dean, stayed more "stage right" and was seen infrequently. Good news or bad news?
The question that surfaces is this: Can two full-time, fully-engaged-in-a-professional-life partners maintain a conscious, healthy, intimate relationship?
When two professionals spend a great deal of, or an inordinate amount of time, pursuing their careers, there is time to pursue each other on a consistent basis, that is, to continue to see their relationship as "fresh" every day, to continue to "work" on their relationship consistently, and actually "be" in a relationship on a true like- and love-level consistently?
Or, does something (read: someone) have to give? Does the relationship begin to evaporate to the degree that the two spouses or partners are more roommates, and ships passing in the night, than they are committed and intimate partners? Do the partners lose sight of "shared values" and the notion of a "we" and replace these relationship fundamental support with "my values" and "your values" and "I" and "you"?
Other signs that a dual-professional relationship might be in trouble are:
· The partners are becoming emotionally distant, where just talking to one another is a challenge, where one or both partners feel they are taken for granted, one feels the other does not "know me", or both are wasting less and less time together
· Job-tension is interfering with the relationship; one or both partners are not concerned about the other's professional stresses or listen with compassion or understanding about the other's job stress-related issues; one partner takes out their job stress on the other
· The passion is seeing out of the relationship, touching infrequently, speaking less lovingly toward one another and rarely physically holding one another;
· Sex is an issue – less frequent, less satisfying, less discussion about, less loving
· Life changes (birth of a child, a relocation, a death of a loved one or an illness, etc.) become "elephants in the room" – where compromise is lacking, where partners grow distant instead of closer, where events trigger tension and conflict instead of closeness, where worry is a thread that permeates the relationship.
· One or both partners become too-socially-close with someone outside their relationship and / or one or both start to come come hyper-vigilant about, or jealous of, the other; where trust is fading; where feelings of betrayal and suspicion are rampant;
· Fighting becomes the norm; fights erupt over almost any issue or event – small or large; where anger and irritation seem to rule everyday emotions and feelings; where the partners engage in consistent nit-picking, bickering, and nagging in an attempt to hurt the other; where mutual appreciation and respect are lacking
· One or both partners begin to abuse chemical- and non-chemical drugs or engage in repulsive behaviors; where one or both feel they are not in the relationship …