Can there be a cause and effect to this commitment anxiety?
I mean as the Course in Miracles teaches, “Without a cause there can be no effects, and yet without effects there is no cause.”
Have you ever tried to understand someone who has fear of commitment in relationships? I have several good friends who have the signs of this type of commitment anxiety.
The majority of them are guys.
They can not select simple things.
They discover it hard to choose on what to eat throughout a fine dining event, they can not choose between two excellent theater shows, even on what to wear in the morning.
Take my longtime friend Mike, for example, had never been involved in serious relationships, considering the fact that even back when he was in his 30’s and is a perfect marrying age for guys.
He is one of my closest good friends and had always been a bachelor with a great career and excellent income.
I believe that he has had commitment phobia in relationships.
He would never accept that idea, which in truth is another characteristic of a person who has commitment anxiety.
About 20 some years ago I had this conversation with Mike:
Me: “Have you ever had a major serious relationship before?
Mike: “Nope.” He, answered.
Mike: “It’s due to the fact that I’m not ready to settle down”.
Me: “What are the things that made you not willing so far to settle down? I asked again.
He simply shrugged his shoulders and paused.
Mike: “It is merely since I’m afraid to dedicate to a nice woman, and I just don’t feel a ‘readiness’ within me to get married at this time. I’m scared that I may not handle it properly and she may try to control me.
Me: “Then you are one of those who hesitate of commitments or the worry of serious obligation and commitment.”
Mike: “Am I afraid of commitment? I don’t think so… “
Is having fear of commitment in relationships not healthy or healthy at all.
Commitment phobia in relationships can truly hold you back, since it is just that life needs us all to unite and be wholly committed to a world where we are all helping each other.
What I mean is, a few short years not too very long after that conversation with Mike, he met a wonderful woman, Mary.
They dated, slowly, the pace picked up, or we may say, deepened, and while both Mike and Mary now in their 40’s, decided to tie the knot.
Yes, they married, and to this day are one of the happiest couples you’ll ever meet.
The Course in Miracles goes on to further teach us that, “The cause of healing is the only Cause of everything. It has but one effect.”
Fear of Commitment
Fear of commitment in relationships might begin from childhood from which an individual suffered from distressing experience, such as separation of parents, divorce, and death.
Being afraid of relationships can also be a result of poor role models in which the person may have experienced offending relationships.
Signs of a committed relationship that frightens people can be defeated by different techniques.
The most typical technique used in overcoming commitment phobia, and the hypnosis or hypnotherapy that has helped many.
You may be able to point them in the right direction if you have friends who want to begin overcoming commitment phobia.
Fear of commitment in relationships scientifically, is a kind of commitment anxiety.
It is commonly called as the commitment phobia, which refers to a person who is afraid of being dedicated to any deep relationships, duties, tasks and projects.
To a happy life!